Nana Ama
by on September 20, 2016
The other day I decided to go to the saloon to treat my hair because I felt lazy doing that myself. I made sure it was a saloon that knew much about natural hair care. As I got to the saloon, one of the ladies was like "see how bad your natural hair appears! Relax it for a better look."
"Are you saying the way I was created isn't the right look for me? I guess you better take it up with God then" I snapped in response.....
I sat down quietly and the stylist came and took me over to the washing base and proceeded to shampoo and condition my hair. I noticed that she was talking in a low voice (which I coudn't hear) and making gestures as looks of frustration creeped across her face. She then tried to get a comb through my coils in an effort to detangle my hair. I realized she wasn't able to detangle properly. Then she stopped and looked me straight in the eye. "You know, if my hair was like yours, I would seriously get a relaxer...."
My anger level rised up ehhn.... I was shocked because it was the second time someone was trying to talk bad about my hair :disappointed: I thought of walking out of the saloon with the towel still wrapped around my shoulders, but I decided to stay and talk with her to understand what would prompt such a statement rather than leaving a wake of bitterness and frustration in my path.
Slowly, I took a deep breath and set my mind to talking through the situation.
"Well, I actually had been relaxing for years but not anymore. It's easier for me to care for and wear my hair natural. And hey, I love the way God created me." I explained.
With dripping wet hair, I reached into my bag and pulled out my favorite detangling comb and conditioner. (I find that it's often helpful to bring your own products and tools when trying a saloon). I proceeded to show her how I apply conditioner and work the comb from the tips of my hair up to my roots. It's about doing it slowly and taking it in sections. I demonstrated before giving her the comb to finish off herself.
She felt embarrassed and her tone softened as she continued. "I just want my hair to be as easy as possible. I don't really have time for my hair, that's why I wear weaves and braids."
"Which is absolutely understandable" I responded.
Hours flew by as we talked about natural hair care tips, techniques and products. By the time I left, I had received compliments from not just the stylist herself but the other clients in the shop.
Going natural has taught me a lot about being patient and how to find the right products. It has made me learn how to work with my texture; and surprisingly, how to be patient with others. And one last thing, loving my hair has allowed me to love myself because natural hair creates a more inclusive beauty standard... .
Cheers! :smile:
Kume Ozoro
Nana Ama you put a really creative spin on this one. Is this how having a kid inspires one :bulb: I'd better start speeding my plans up on that one :smiley:
Nana Ama
Lol yeah hehe ... Kume Ozoro
Nana Ama
Thanks Kume Ozoro
Kume Ozoro
You're welcome Nana Ama
Fatou Bom Bittaye
I like your post Nana Ama it's very frank. And it's true, going natural is the first step to self love/acceptance.
Nana Ama
Yeah exactly fatou
Nana Ama
Fatou Bom Bittaye
You're welcome my dear